All my life I have been very good
at saying, “yes!” As a child, there was
no higher praise than the praise I received for helping out or for doing a good
turn for someone else. I learned that caring for others was the best way to
feel good about myself.
Fast-forward twenty-plus years…I
have two teenage children, a husband and a dog. Do you think that I have cared
for them? Of COURSE I have! I have given them my all and at times more than my all.
I have also worked most of my
life. Since the age of twelve I have had
one type of job or another. I am a GREAT
worker! Employers love to hire me- I give them my all!
Cub Scout leader, Title I board,
coach, neighborhood block club organizer, you name it, I have probably joined
it. I help people, I problem solve and get
them from point A to point B. But what
happens when you 1. Continue to say “yes” to other people and you want to say
no, 2. Don’t let people do things for themselves that they could do for themselves and 3. Don’t make time
for yourself?
One word: RESENTMENT
Resentment can lead to all sorts
of, what I call, “sick” thinking. You
start to blame others for your problems, you are angry for seemingly no reason,
you try to fix every other person’s problems but your own. You are NOT happy.
So, how do you move from the place
of resentment to love? That is what it
is, it is SELF-love. You start caring for yourself most! At this moment, you might say, “I can’t. I have young children, I have a crazy job, I
have to support my family, or I LIKE putting others first.” Well, these are all lies, lies we tell
ourselves, lies our ego tells us. These
thoughts are NOT our true soul-self, the self that is love-based because the
only way we can ultimately, truly
care for others and have others care for US is through self-love and once that happens, all the rest is possible.
Deepak Chopra is one good resource for more exploration into healing, balance and transforming your life.
Deepak Chopra is one good resource for more exploration into healing, balance and transforming your life.
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